Better Chapter Counselling
Do you ever wonder:
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Why you're so hard on yourself, and why you can't get it together?
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Why you lack purpose, direction, or fulfillment in life?
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Why you can't fully commit to a job, healthy habits, or a relationship?
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Why you don't know what you really want or what makes you happy?
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Why you constantly procrastinate or lack the confidence you need to do the things you want or need to do?
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Why you don't love your sex life or other aspects of your relationships?
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Why you feel like you have so much anger and need to numb out all the time?
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Why things have gotten so bad you can't even peel yourself out of bed?
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Why you feel like you're constantly letting other people down?
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Why you're in a rut of seemingly endless self-sabotage?
Admit it: you've asked yourself at least one of these questions and don't know what to do.
So, Now What?
We do the work. Because, if we do what we've always done, we'll get what we've always gotten. It won't necessarily be easy, it won't necessarily be fun, but it will definitely be worth it.
What you need to do the work:
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A willingness to be honest and transparent with yourself, even when it's uncomfortable.
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Getting out of your head and into your body. Going into the emotional and experiential aspects of your life.
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Committing to self-reflection and discovering what has been hidden.
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Exploration of your personal history to understand the origins of behavioral patterns and core beliefs.
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Absolute ownership; admitting when you deviate, become reactive, or are avoiding/rejecting what's true or necessary.
What I Provide
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A collaborative evidence based plan to help you achieve your goals.
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The space to be honest with yourself, without judgement.
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Techniques for getting emotions out safely and effectively, so you're in control, not them.
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Encouragement and support in facing the difficult aspects of life.
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Guidance and exploration of the self, core beliefs and behavioral patterns.
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Accountability, someone to help hold you to your word when things get hard.
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Coping strategies to get you where you want to be, no matter what you're facing.​
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Education on the how's and why's of mental health and psychology.
Who am I?
Well first off my name is Kyle Culham and I am a Registered Professional Counsellor (RPC-c) with the Canadian Professional Counsellors Association. I live, work and play in Kelowna British Columbia. I've always been fascinated with the way our minds work and what causes us to do the things we do, especially when we know we don't want to do those things anymore! Growing up I never felt like I could take on such an endeavor. Since I came from a family of "hands on" trade and retail workers. I was stuck in the mind set of "higher education is not for me". So I did what was expected, bounced around a few different jobs, and coped with living a life I didn't love with the less than ideal mechanisms I was taught growing up. Numbing the discomfort with a variety of things, thinking I just need to "suck it up." As more and more of life's stressors piled on me (losing loved ones, relationships falling apart, etc.) I got deeper and deeper into a life I didn't want. Then when things got to the part where they weren't "good enough" anymore, that dark place where you ask yourself "what's the point?" (There's a good chance if you're reading this, you might be there now.) I did the hard thing, I asked for help. I looked for a counsellor that could help sort this all out. Luckily I found one. With their help, guidance and support I was able to flush out all the B.S. The feelings of not mattering, not being good enough, not being loveable. I learned new ways to deal with stress, be fully present and actually enjoy life, even when it doesn't go the way I'd like. Now I use that knowledge, my education and my experiences to help others get through what ever they're facing.
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I truly hope you find what you need to live the life you want, and if you need help please reach out.